Being a good parent is challenging. At the same time can be the most rewarding venture we will ever undertake. The Bible has lots to say about the way we can successfully raise our children in the “discipline and admonition of Jehovah” (Ephesians 6:4). As a good father or mother, the first thing we must do is teach them the truth from God's Word the Bible.
What does the Bible say about being a good parent?
1. Set the example
Our children learn a great deal from what we teach them ever day. But they learn way more by watching what we do. Therefore, we must be careful in our every action, whether public or private! First and foremost, we need to acknowledge our God-given marital roles. Jehovah knows that without submission to authority, there is no order. The husband's responsibility as head of the family is to love his wife as he loves his own body, in the same sacrificial way that Jesus loved the congregation (Ephesians 5:25-29). Husbands and wives must mutually respect one another. The wife needs to show Godly submission to her head (Ephesians 5:21). Jehovah God has established this: “But I want you to know that the head of every man is the Christ; in turn, the head of a woman is the man; in turn, the head of the Christ is God” (1 Corinthians 11:3).
Ephesians 5:25-29: “Husbands, continue loving your wives, just as the Christ also loved the congregation and gave himself up for it, in order that he might sanctify it, cleansing it with the bath of water by means of the word, so that he might present the congregation to himself in its splendor, without a spot or a wrinkle or any of such things, but holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. A man who loves his wife loves himself, for no man ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cherishes it, just as the Christ does the congregation.”
We the husband exercises his headship lovingly, it's not difficult for his wife to submit to it (Ephesians 5:24; Colossians 3:18). Her responsibilities include loving and respecting her husband, living in wisdom and chasteness, and taking care of the home and children (Titus 2:4, 5).
Titus 2:4, 5: “Advise the younger women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sound in mind, chaste, working at home, good, subjecting themselves to their own husbands, so that the word of God may not be spoken of abusively.”
What was the most important commandment? To love Jehovah. And recognizing the command at Deuteronomy 6:6-9, we must teach our children to do the same. These verses emphasize that teaching them is something we need to do each and every day—in the home, on the road, at bedime, and in the morning. Bible truth must be the foundation of our very lives. By following the principles of these commands, we teach our children that worshiping God should be constant, not reserved for Sunday mornings or bedtime prayers.
Deuteronomy 6:6-9: “These words that I am commanding you today must be on your heart, and you must inculcate them in your sons and speak of them when you sit in your house and when you walk on the road and when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as a reminder on your hand, and they must be like a headband on your forehead. Write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.”
Our heavenly father recognizes that no discipline is “joyous” (Hebrews 12:11), but if followed by loving instruction, it is incredibly advantageous to the child. “Fathers, do not be irritating your children, but go on bringing them up in the discipline and admonition of Jehovah.” (Ephesians 6:4). Therefore, discipline and instruction are integral parts of being a good father and mother. Proverbs 13:24 says, “Whoever holds back his rod hates his son, But the one who loves him disciplines him diligently.” Studies have shown that children who grew up undisciplined felt unloved. Later on in life, they generally had little respect for any kind of authority, including Jehovah God's. “Discipline your son while there is hope, And do not become responsible for his death.” (Proverbs 19:18). Nevertheless, discipline must be balanced with love, lest they grow up disheartened and resentful. (Colossians 3:21).
4. Stay close to Jehovah's organization
As a good parent, it is important to involve your children in the congregation meetings and ministry when they are young (Hebrews 10:25). Allow them to see you studying the Bible, and also study it with them. Discuss with them the world around them as they see it, and teach them about Jehovah through everyday life. “Train a boy in the way he should go; Even when he grows old he will not depart from it” (Proverbs 22:6). Being a good parent is all about raising children who will follow your example in obeying and worshipping Jehovah.
Are you a parent? What tips and tricks can you share with new fathers and mothers? Please share in the comments below! Also, please check out the variety of ideas for Family Worship Evening at Ministry Ideaz.
Source:g 3/13 pp. 4-7, g04 8/22 pp. 8-11, w11 11/1 p. 18